Help me I'm Hurting

We can be hurting for lots of different reasons but on this page we offer some advice and support for those who are in difficult relationship problems or abusive situations.

Domestic violence and other types of abuse to women, children and men can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical. Noticing and acknowledging the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the following warning signs and descriptions of abuse, reach out. There is help available.

 

Below we have highlighted some organisations that may be able to help you if you are struggling in a relationship or with abuse form any area. This is not an exhaustive list so please let us know if you know of other helpful organisations. 

Help for children

Child abuse is more than bruises and broken bones. While physical abuse might be the most visible, other types of abuse, such as emotional abuse and neglect, also leave deep, lasting scars. The earlier abused children get help, the greater chance they have to heal and break the cycle—rather than perpetuating it. By learning about common signs of abuse and what you can do to intervene, you can make a huge difference in a child’s life.

For more helpful advice on this subject go to Helpguide.org

If you a church worker and you suspect a child is being abused then a great place for information is to be found at

Churches Child Protection Advisory Service (CCPAS)

CCPAS exists to safeguard both children and vulnerable adults throughout the UK. We also work to help those throughout the UK who are, or have been, affected by child abuse and similar issues.

CCPAS is consulted and used by places of worship and groups across the church spectrum. We also assist other faith groups and a wide variety of statutory agencies and non-faith organisations keen to benefit from our resources and expertise.

Childline 0800 1111

If you are a child and worried about anything, it could be something big or something small - don't bottle it up. It can really help if you talk to someone. If there is something on your mind, ChildLine is here for you.

Help for Marriages and those divorced

Relate Cymru  

 

To promote health, respect and justice in couples and families relationships.

Divorce Recovery Workshop

Every year at least 300,000 people go through the breakdown of a significant relationship, separation or divorce. DRW is a workshop to help those who have gone through this experience.

Help for women

Domestic abuse also known as spousal abuse, occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence.

Domestic violence and abuse are used for one purpose and one purpose only: to gain and maintain total control over you. An abuser doesn’t “play fair.” Abusers use fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down and keep you under his or her thumb. Your abuser may also threaten you, hurt you, or hurt those around you.

For more helpful advice on this subject go to Helpguide.org

Samaritans  0845 790 9090

If you need to talk then the Samaritans are willing to listen.

Welsh Women's Aid  (Cardiff Women's Aid  029 2039 0874) 
Working to end violence against women and children

 

BAWSO  

BAWSO support people from Black and Ethnic Minority backgrounds who are affected by domestic abuse and other forms of abuse, including Female Genital Mutilation, Forced Marriage, Human Trafficking & Prostitution.

Hafan Cymru
Providing housing and support services to women, men and their children, particularly those escaping Domestic Abuse. We also deliver a very successful project called ‘Spectrum’ visiting schools and educating the youth of Wales about abuse and it’s consequences.

MEWN Cymru 

Minority Ethnic Women's Network Wales (MEWN Cymru) is an umbrella body representing ethnic minority (visible and non visible)women across Wales, regardless of their age, religious observance, ethnicity or life choices. 

Cardiff Concern A free counselling service run by Christians for the local community. If you need someone to talk too about a issue that is effecting your life they are there to help. There may be similar organisations in your area so please contact us for details.

Help for men

While the majority of domestic violence victims are women, abuse of men happens far more often than you'd probably expect. Typically, men are physically stronger than women but that doesn't necessarily make it easier to escape the violence or the relationship. An abused man faces a shortage of resources, skepticism from police, and major legal obstacles, especially when it comes to gaining custody of his children from an abusive mother. No matter your age, occupation, or sexual orientation, though, you can overcome these challenges and escape the abuse.

For more helpful advice on this subject go to Helpguide.org

Welsh Women's Aid   Cardiff Women's Aid  029 2039 0874

Also offer advice for men suffering with domestic abuse

Men's Advice Line  0808 801 0327Advice and support for men who are suffering abuse and domestic violence

Samaritans  0845 790 9090

If you need to talk then the Samaritans are willing to listen.

Cardiff Concern A free counselling service run by Christians for the local community. If you need someone to talk too about a issue that is effecting your life they are there to help. There may be similar organisations in your area so please contact us for details.

Help for older person

Reporting elder abuse can bring up a lot of difficult emotions and uncertainty. You may ask yourself if you’re doing the right thing, or how you can be sure an older adult is getting the help they need. You may also question whether you’re doing enough to help the person. As difficult as reporting elder abuse can be, it’s important for you to stand up for an older adult in need. Here are some tips for communicating effectively in different situations.

For more helpful advice on this subject go to Helpguide.org

Elderly person abuse response  0800 8088 141